Respect is the most important part of any relationship with a girl, whether it’s physical or purely friendly. The more you get to know and respect her, the easier it will be to accept rejection: you’ll already be on the way to being good friends even if a romantic relationship doesn’t work out. [2] X Expert Source Imad JbaraDating Coach Expert Interview. 5 November 2019.
For example, it’s likely that she won’t like to be kissed with a large group of people nearby, as she may become embarrassed. Try picking a secluded place like a park or quiet room when no one else is around. If she has a romantic personality, pick a scenic place for your kiss, like a beautiful nature preserve or a quiet art museum. Romantic places come in many varieties, so you’ll have to know her personality to choose the best one. Make sure that it’s a very memorable spot. Kiss her by her door. If choosing a place for a first kiss is too difficult, go with an old standby. Walk or drive her home, and then go for the kiss at her front door. This works best at the end of a good date.
Make sure your breath is fresh. Gum or mints are a great way to make sure that your breath smells good before going in for a kiss. If you go out for dinner on your date, try to avoid anything too pungent with strong garlic or onions. If your breath is noticeably bad, she may turn down the kiss. Even worse, she may go through with it and have a bad experience that she won’t be able to forget. Keep your facial hair neat. Some girls like guys with facial hair, and others don’t. It may be too soon in your relationship to know what her preferences are, but you can still extend her some common courtesy. Beards and mustaches can scratch or abrade her face, making the experience unpleasant. Also, unkempt or uneven facial hair is unattractive in general. Trim your facial hair, and use an oil or balm to soften coarse beards and mustaches. [4] X Research source Shower and use deodorant. It may seem simple or obvious, but her impression of you will be negative if you have strong body odor or seem unclean. Make sure to take a shower before you meet up.
Say: “I had a really great time with you tonight, and I’m really attracted to you. Would it be okay if I kissed you?” or “Do you feel like there’s chemistry between us? I really feel it: do you want to kiss?” Don’t stop asking for her permission throughout any intimacy. Physical relationships require ongoing conversations about what’s okay and what isn’t. Let her know that you’re comfortable stopping at any time, and that she should let you know if she ever feels uncomfortable.
Touch her arm first. While you’re talking, reach up and touch her arm. Keep your touch light and relaxed, and don’t move too fast. If she moves away or asks you to stop, let go. Touch her hand. If you are already touching her arm, all you have to do is move your hand towards hers. If you aren’t touching her yet and need a reason to, ask her about any jewelry or nail polish. It will help keep the conversation going and make her feel more comfortable. When in doubt, ask if you can hold her hand. Touch her hair. Touching her hair is an obvious sign that you’re attracted to her, and she will definitely notice. If you’re already touching her hand or arm, move your hand to her hair. Make sure you’ve already asked and initiated some other contact first, as reaching straight for her hair may make her uncomfortable. If you need an icebreaker or feel nervous, ask her questions about her hair before touching it: whether it’s her natural color, whether she wears it up or down, etc. Beware that she may dislike this. If she tells you that things feel weird, or asks you not to touch her hair, don’t do it.
Try squeezing her hand. Increase the firmness of your grip a bit as you talk. If she squeezes back, that’s another good sign that she wants to take things further.
Be aware of negative clues as well. If she fails to respond to your physical signals, it’s possible that she’s not interested or sees you as more of a friend. This isn’t a bad thing, it just means that the chemistry might not be there for her. Always be respectful of her wishes, and back off if you start to get the feeling that she’s not interested in taking it further.
Continue touching her if you were already making contact before the kiss. Continue holding her hand or touching her arm or shoulder. Be gentle. Make sure that if you’re touching her, you’re only applying light pressure. Being too forceful or holding her too firmly might make her uncomfortable, or show that you’re moving too fast.
The kiss should only last a few seconds. There will be plenty more time to continue kissing, especially if you ask her if she wants to continue. If she pulls away first, don’t lean into her and try to prolong a kiss. Keep your hands on her waist, arm or hands. Don’t let your hands wander to places that she may be uncomfortable having you touch. Just because she’s agreed to kiss doesn’t mean that she is ready to go any further. If she starts to touch you in return, and you feel that she’s interested in doing more, break off the kiss and ask her. She’ll be glad that you respect her feelings, and she’ll be able to tell you if there’s anything she wants to do next.
When the kiss ends, ask her if she’s okay, or ask how she’s feeling. The moment after a kiss can be a bit awkward, but asking if she’s alright will give you an idea of what she’s thinking about or feeling. If she says that she’s alright, and is happy, you’ve done a good job with your first kiss. Try not to make things awkward by getting flustered or asking for more physical contact. Stay relaxed, continue talking, or let her go for the night if you’ve walked her home. If she says she’s not alright, don’t be upset. She may not have felt a connection with you, or she may have been uncomfortable with the kiss. She might let you know the reasons that she felt uncomfortable. Listen to what she says, and respect her feelings about the physical contact.
